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14 Questions for Children to Have a Good Mindset

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Today you’ll find out how to engage your child in meaningful conversation. These questions will help your kids foster a good mindset!

A parent’s duty is to help their children develop positive character and a positive perspective on life. Both of these will play a role in shaping your child’s view of the world. In addition, asking the right questions motivates action that results in positive change and maximizes the efficiency of current capabilities.

It’s important to be open and direct with kids, asking them questions that help shape their responses and encouraging them to think positively. Rather than telling them what to do, you should try to show them the value of maintaining a positive outlook and making the most of their current circumstances.

Questions to Ask Your Children to Foster a Good Mindset

Put some thought into the questions you ask your children to promote conversation and a healthy perspective. As you ask your kids these questions, you’ll build a stronger bond with each one, gain insight into who they are as people, and foster in them a good mindset.

1. How would you describe yourself using just five words?

The answer to this question can help guide kids toward developing self-awareness and social awareness. A child’s sense of self-esteem depends on how well she knows her place in the world.

2. What are some of your favorite things to do in life?

For some kids, nothing makes them happier than playing video games, which is fine. Recent research has shown that gaming has many positive effects on the mind. Husbands and wives who play video games together strengthen their relationships.

This question aims to get your kid thinking about what makes him happy and to show him that he has the power to make a conscious decision to spend more time engaging in the things that make him happy. This experience will hopefully teach him to spend his time and energy on the things that bring him the most joy, whether that be a particular hobby, a particular career path, or anything else.

3. What have you mastered and can you pass on to others?

The purpose of this question is to spark a conversation about the value of instilling in young people the idea that there is more to success than what they can take away from a given situation. What matters most in this life is what we can do for one another.

You give your child a sense of power and significance by asking this. It’s a constant affirmation of her unique value and worth. Make your child feel special and loved, and you’ll boost her self-esteem, confidence, and desire to learn.

4. What is the best and worst thing that has ever happened to you?

The world is not a perfect place, but neither is it a place of constant darkness and despair. What makes life so interesting is that we get to experience both good and bad things.

Young people who understand this idea are better able to handle the hardships of adulthood. The challenge lies in deciding where to focus one’s attention. Through personal experience, the child learns that bad times don’t last forever.

After every storm, the sun eventually comes out, and it’s nice to be outside again. You also learn how to best support your child in these areas.

5. What did you take away from the most positive or negative experience in your life?

The old adage that “experience is the best teacher” appears to be true. It’s vital that children learn to draw wisdom not only from their own experiences (both positive and negative), but also from those of their parents and other adults in their lives.

That’s a great strategy for getting ahead and making the most of any given circumstance. If your kid can take in information and grow from it, she won’t make the same mistakes twice.

6. What do you think will be the most useful thing you learn now that you’re an adult?

A question like this serves as a gentle reminder to young people that they will grow up and need to begin living with a sense of direction. It’s also about helping your children tune in to the direction their own moral compass is tugging and the steps they need to take to get there.

In the long run, your child will benefit greatly from reading, studying, and learning, and this will pique his interest in doing so.

7. For what are you most thankful?

By asking this, you can help your child learn to appreciate the good things in life and start counting their blessings. The goal is to help young people recognize the good in their lives despite their circumstances and develop a sense of gratitude for the basics of life, such as their loved ones, their community, their school, and their food.

There’s a strong connection between thankfulness and contentment, so this could boost your kid’s happiness.

8. How do you think that person is feeling?

It’s common for kids to be preoccupied with their own emotions while paying no attention to those around them. Your child needs to learn empathy if he or she wants to have healthy relationships and stay out of fights that aren’t necessary.

Get her thinking about how other people feel to help her develop empathy. Just by being more thoughtful and empathetic themselves, your children will grow into more caring, helpful, and content adults. If she consistently puts other people’s needs before her own, she’ll have a much more fulfilling life.

9. How do you envision your future?

The intent of this inquiry is to get kids thinking about and making plans for the future. Your child will benefit from thinking about his future and his hopes for the world.

The conversation you have around this question will reveal your child’s aspirations and show you how to best support him in achieving them.

10. With which of your pals do you think I’d get along best? Why?

The people with whom you spend the most time shape your personality the most. If you surround yourself with pessimists all the time, you will start to adopt their perspective. Having a group of optimistic friends can have a significant impact on one’s own perspective on life.

If you want to know who your child’s biggest influence is among their friends, just ask them this question. Instill in your kid the idea that, as Jim Rohn once said, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

11. If you had the chance to become famous in the future, what would it be for?

This inquiry prompts young minds to consider what it means to leave a lasting mark in the world and what kind of legacy they would like to leave behind. Should one’s primary goal be financial gain, or should there be other measures of success as well?

What do you want to be remembered for? You can learn a lot about your child’s character development and the people who inspire him or her by observing how he or she responds to these questions. Knowing that will help you keep a close eye on how your kid grows up morally is crucial.

12. If you had the power to change the world, how would you do it?

According to studies, the anticipation of a good event is more satisfying than the event itself. When your child is old enough to understand that tomorrow is not today and that each new day is a chance to do something good, you can start to teach her to work to fix problems and make the world a better place in her own small way.

Those who view challenges as manageable and who believe in their own abilities to find solutions are more likely to experience happiness.

13. What can you do today to help another person?

Disease, poverty, ignorance, and emotional anguish are all part of everyday life, so it’s crucial that we, as brothers and sisters, be there for each other when times get tough.

Togetherness is a hallmark of true brotherhood and sisterhood. Encourage your children to live generously by asking them this question frequently.

14. What would be the one rule you’d make that everyone in the world would have to obey if you had the power to do so? Why?

As a result of this inquiry, kids will realize that we must adhere to certain standards in order to keep the world running smoothly. The point of having rules is not to punish us but to make our lives and our interactions with others more pleasant.

When your child has a personal rule that he believes in, he will be more appreciative of this fact and more receptive to following correctly pointed-down rules and regulations. Raising children who are good people, who follow the law, and who contribute to society can all start with that one rule or motto.


Both physically and psychologically, children develop and change quickly. As parents, we want our kids to grow up knowing who they are, what they stand for, and how to handle themselves as responsible adults. We are not trying to create carbon copies of ourselves in our children but rather to encourage their development into their own unique people in an atmosphere of love and acceptance.

Asking your kids questions on a daily basis will get them in the habit of talking to you. In doing so, you are also showing them how much you value their input.

It’s easy to get in the habit of asking your kids yes-or-no questions, but by asking them open-ended questions instead, you can get them to share their deepest thoughts and feelings. 

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